“Coming home from very lonely places, all of us go a little mad: whether from great personal success, or just an all-night drive, we are the sole survivors of a world no one else has ever seen.”
I’m done with being an active daily visitor on Facebook. In 1998 I moved to the mountains of western Montana and telecommuting as a career to be mostly shed of collective, in-your-face human stupidity, negative and aggressive people, the all-consuming urban milieu, and the obligatory crap that comes with living like maladjusted rats in a cage right next to hundreds, thousands or millions of other similarly afflicted rats.
A year on Facebook being “social” has reminded me why, over and over again, I made the right choice. Most of what people who live in America’s cities, drive cars to work and have regular jobs think is important, isn’t. Same with folks camped out on Facebook, generally. It’s just plain stupid socializing, like a cocktail party after midnight, and from what I’ve seen it brings up that level of saccharine banality and occasional streaks of meanness from people (if that…) and leaves little room for more.
Ignoring what’s important? Check. Niggling over minutia? Check! Whipping up sentiments? Good luck. Blurting trite tripe into the ether for other people to react to? Check! ”Click Like if you love Jesus Christ!” Being witty and “personal” in under 455 characters? Yep. It’s all there. Facebook asks, ”What’s on your mind?” In a great big nutshell, it’s people ignoring mountains, and instead manufacturing false Everests out of molehills. Much ado about not much at all.
I’ve learned that people who are interested in what I’m up to are a fraction of the people listed on my Facebook account as Friends. Real friends can always visit my personal site. The rest of you can, uh, talk about ‘Smores or the latest “undiscovered” video of the Monkees on Facebook.
If I die tomorrow, I will go happy knowing I did the right thing. I love my friends and family but there are more important and more rewarding pursuits than being a stalwart Facebooker.
Like just about everything else.






